Managing Your Move to or in El Paso: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 1

managing your moveMoving is the adult equivalent of elementary school—everybody is very excited about the thought, but it's only the folks with down-to-earth expectations who end up having a trouble-free move. Yes, it is a new abode, a new start, and the prospect of a fabulous new life--but once that last empty moving van pulls away and you are standing there amidst your boxes, you have still got to do the real work.

Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to beginning that new life on a positive note--and that means not only accepting the fact that a new home won't wondrously suck up the fifteen pounds you have good intentions to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in the best circumstances and you and your family should allot the time and space to accept that.

One of the stragne things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be harder on the kids than a long-distance relocation. A new home hundreds of miles away eliminates the non-stop requests to go see their friends in the old neighborhood, and it may be easier to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone.

But let’s get back to the topic. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in El Paso--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge will need to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I will go through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love lots more than you realize you do. Regardless if you handle your own packing or employ professional movers, you've got to determine what is worth the time and money to take with you.


Purging is one of those odd phrases you don't hear all the time, at least in a affirmative connotation. However, letting go of the old baggage is one of the smartest ways so that you can let your new residence to bestow your expectations of grandeur. There are all kinds of rules and pointers to assist you in figuring out the best approaches to go through your old things, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a little less traditional--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is merely sorting through all the cupboards, closets and drawers and creating three piles: take with you, get rid of, donate. Or you may have four piles if you've got a lot of next-to-new things that you do not use anymore, and consign those things.

The hardest thing about purging is keeping up the detachment in order to be cutthroat about throwing away items. If you kept all those pre-school art projects, how can you get rid of them and be a great parent? Here is a tip—appoint a friend to help you sort through things and talk you through why you are holding onto things that are really better to be gotten rid of. Having someone ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in relative importance and you'll have a less difficult time growing the throw away pile if you've got someone to reinforce your decisions.

If your partner is the one with the hoarder habits, here is a suggestion for helping a reluctant partner part with their treasures. Think small, and begin with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and steadily get to larger things, like collections (for example, select two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest).

Catch us next time as we go over managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.